High standards can be a real strength, but when they become unrelenting, nothing ever feels good enough. Perfectionism can bring constant pressure, self-criticism and a fear of getting things wrong, and it often leaves little room for rest, enjoyment or kindness towards yourself.
Many people who struggle with perfectionism are capable and successful on the outside while feeling exhausted, anxious or never quite enough on the inside.
You might notice
- A harsh inner critic that is hard to quieten
- Setting standards for yourself that feel impossible to meet
- Fear of mistakes, criticism or failure
- Putting things off, or over-checking and over-preparing
- Difficulty relaxing, resting or accepting praise
- Feeling stressed or burnt out
- Tying your self-worth to achievement
How therapy can help
An integrative approach can help build a nuanced picture of what drives your need for perfectionism and high standards. As you come to understand yourself more deeply, it becomes possible to make lasting change, so that you are no longer driven by standards that are increasingly impossible to meet without it costing you.
Drawing on a range of therapeutic approaches can help you to soften self-criticism and develop a kinder inner voice, which often makes change feel safer. We work at your pace, towards standards that serve you rather than punish you.
I offer therapy for perfectionism in person in the Cotswolds in Stroud, Gloucestershire, and online across the UK.
What clients say
“Thank you Caroline - I found the CBT therapy really helpful and very much appreciated your sympathetic and considered approach.”
“The way it all made sense and gave me practical tools that I could apply in the future, whenever needed.”
“Empathy was genuine and you put me at ease.”
“A safe space to share, talking brings out wider thoughts and understanding of the situation, recognising my feelings and aiding self-reflection. To be given tools to support outside of the session and to help going forwards.”
“It was a very interesting experience and most definitely beneficial.”
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