Low self-esteem is more than a lack of confidence. It is a deep-seated belief, often formed early in life, that you are not good enough, and it can colour how you see yourself, your relationships and your future.
From the outside, you might seem capable and successful. On the inside, there may be a constant critic that dismisses your achievements and magnifies your mistakes. Therapy can help you understand where these beliefs came from and loosen their hold.
You might notice
- A harsh inner voice, or being very self-critical
- Feeling you are not good enough, however much you achieve
- Dismissing compliments, or putting your successes down to luck
- Comparing yourself unfavourably with other people
- Finding it hard to say no, or putting other people’s needs before your own
- Avoiding challenges or opportunities for fear of failing
- Needing reassurance, or worrying a lot about what other people think
- Feeling you always have to prove yourself
How therapy can help
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a well-established approach for low self-esteem. Together we explore the beliefs you hold about yourself, how they developed and what keeps them going, and gently test them out in everyday life, so that a fairer and more balanced view can take hold.
Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) is particularly helpful where harsh self-criticism or shame are part of the picture. We build skills to meet difficulty with warmth and steadiness, so that you can respond to yourself with more kindness and less criticism.
I offer therapy for low self-esteem in person in the Cotswolds in Stroud, Gloucestershire, and online across the UK.
What clients say
“Thank you Caroline - I found the CBT therapy really helpful and very much appreciated your sympathetic and considered approach.”
“The way it all made sense and gave me practical tools that I could apply in the future, whenever needed.”
“Empathy was genuine and you put me at ease.”
“A safe space to share, talking brings out wider thoughts and understanding of the situation, recognising my feelings and aiding self-reflection. To be given tools to support outside of the session and to help going forwards.”
“It was a very interesting experience and most definitely beneficial.”
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